The Arts and Science of Relationships: Understanding Human Needs

1 Assignment

• Your Social Scripts and Relationships

4 Videos

• Overview of Module 2
• 2.1 Social Scripts
• 2.2 Social Scripts and Traps
• 2.3 Social Scripts and Traps: Consumerism

1 Readings

• Introduction to Social Scripts

1 Assignment

• Strategies on Changing Relationship Pattern

2 Videos

• 2.4 Social Scripts: Attachment Theory
• 2.5 SSLD on changing relationship pattern

1 Readings

• Recommended Reading on Attachment Theory

1 Assignment

• Form of Relationships

5 Videos

• 2.6 Natural Imagination
• 2.7 Game Plan & Human Nature
• 2.8 "The One" Myth
• 2.9 How much is up to us?
• 2.10 Mind Reading Fantasy

1 Assignment

• Create a game plan for your first (or next) date!

1 Discussions

• Share your online dating experience

4 Videos

• 2.11 Spontaneity
• 2.12 Game Plan
• How to Create a Game Plan for your relationship?
• Online Dating

2 Assignment

• How important are they?
• Impression management

1 Discussions

• Reflecting on First Impressions

2 Videos

• 2.13: First Impressions
• Conclusion

1 Readings

• Recommended Reading on Initial Contact

2 Readings

• Module 2 Lecture Notes
• Additional Resources for Module 2

1 Assignment

• Identifying the 4 content areas

3 Videos

• Overview of Module 3
• 3.1 The 4 Content Areas
• 3.2 Four Content Areas - How are they useful?

1 Readings

• Recommended Reading for Module 3

4 Assignment

• Differentiating Needs & Wants
• What are their emotions?
• Needs Assessment through Conversations
• Listening to Needs

7 Videos

• 3.3 Reception Overview
• 3.4 Reception - Ideas 1: Attitudes
• 3.5 Reception - Ideas 2: Position
• 3.6 Reception - Ideas 3: Opinions
• 3.7 Reception - Emotional Content
• 3.8 Reception - Importance of Understanding Someone's Needs
• 3.9 Reception - Needs

1 Assignment

• Understanding Attributions & Signifying Acts

6 Videos

• 3.10 Attributions 1: Introduction
• 3.11 Attributions 2: Multiple Contingencies Thinking
• 3.12 Attributions 3: Needs
• 3.13 Signifying Acts
• 3.14 Signifying Acts and Culture
• 3.15 Cultural Literacy Approach

3 Assignment

• Expressing Facts or Ideas
• Expressing Emotions
• Expressing Needs

10 Videos

• Reception to Expression
• 3.16 Expression: Facts
• 3.17 Expression - Ideas 1: Matching N3C
• 3.18 Expression - Ideas 2: Technical Tips
• 3.19 Expression - Ideas 3: Staying Attuned
• 3.20 Expression - Emotions 1: Experience, Expression and Feedback
• 3.21 Expression - Emotions 2: Regulations
• 3.22 Expression - Emotions 3: Emotional Work
• 3.23 Expression - Needs
• Conclusion

1 Peer Review

• Learning to Manage Your Emotions Better?

1 Videos

• Emotional work vs. Emotional Regulation

2 Readings

• Module 3 Lecture Notes
• Additional Resources for Module 3

3 Assignment

• Examining the Social Exchange Perspective
• What are the 6 domains of our lifeworld?
• Driving factors of Power in a Relationship

6 Videos

• Overview of Module 4
• 4.1 Social Exchange Theory and Beyond
• 4.2 Value Reconsidered
• 4.3 The 6 Domains of Our Lifeworld
• 4.4 The Issue of Power
• 4.5 Power, Balance and Giving

1 Readings

• Recommended Reading for Module 4

1 Assignment

• Assessing Compatibility

4 Videos

• 4.6 Compatibility: Needs
• 4.7 Compatibility: Circumstances
• 4.8 Compatibility: Characteristics & Capacity
• 4.9 Compatibility, Differences and Changes

2 Assignment

• Exploring Your Own Idea of Intimacy
• Enhancing presence online

10 Videos

• 4.10 Intimacy
• 4.11 Idea of Intimacy 1
• 4.12 Idea of Intimacy 2
• 4.13 Fear of Intimacy
• 4.14 Fear of Commitment
• 4.15 Building Intimacy
• 4.16 The Role of Physical Intimacy
• 4.17 Intimacy and Sharing of Personal Difficulties
• 4.18 Physical Intimacy and Presence
• 4.19 SSLD Strategies for Building & Maintaining Relationships

1 Readings

• Relationship Building Tools

2 Assignment

• Creating Your Own Happenings and Rituals
• Valuable Lessons Learned

6 Videos

• 4.20 To Grow or Not to Grow?
• 4.21 Growth and Intimacy
• 4.22 Stability or Excitement?
• 4.23 Happenings or Rituals?
• 4.24 Achieving Win-Win Arrangements
• Conclusion

2 Readings

• Module 4 Lecture Notes
• Additional Resources for Module 4

4 Assignment

• Relationships that Need to be Transformed
• Cultural Rules
• Where do you experience it in your body?
• Transformed Relationships

7 Videos

• Overview of Module 5
• 5.1 Culture, History, and Technology
• 5.2 Six Domains of Transformation - Environment
• 5.3 Six Domains of Transformation - Cognition
• 5.4 Six Domains of Transformation - Emotion & Motivation
• 5.5 Six Domains of Transformation - Body & Behaviour
• 5.6 Mutual Needs

1 Readings

• Recommended Reading for Module 5

3 Assignment

• Managing Transformation
• Relationships and Aging
• Optional Quiz: Love Beyond Death

5 Videos

• 5.7 Separation-Individuation 1
• 5.8 Separation-Individuation 2
• 5.9 How can we deal with each other's unmet needs?
• 5.10 Aging: Part 1
• 5.11 Aging: Part 2

5 Assignment

• Experience of Termination
• Get Over Self-Blame and Guilt
• Managing the Emotional Challenges of Transformation/Termination
• Major Transitions in Life
• Your Transformed Relationship

8 Videos

• 5.12 Transformation & Termination
• 5.13 Coping with transformation and termination
• 5.14 Coping with emotional challenges
• 5.15 Coping with major life transitions
• 5.16 Self-Preservation
• 5.17 Difficult Transition
• 5.18 Lifeworld Design
• Conclusion

1 Videos

• The Breakup Journey

2 Readings

• Module 5 Lecture Notes
• Additional Resources for Module 5

1 Assignment

• Your Own Idea of Love

4 Videos

• Overview of Module 6
• 6.1 What is Love
• 6.2 Six Domains of Love
• 6.3 Concluding on What is Love

4 Assignment

• Activity, Interaction, and Relationship
• Communicating the Meaning of Sex
• Deviant Sexual Practice and Culture
• Social Disadvantage and Sexual Life-Chances

8 Videos

• 6.4 Sexuality
• 6.5 Needs Addressed by Sex
• 6.6 Psychological Needs
• 6.7 Social Needs
• 6.8 Spirituality
• 6.9 Sex and Quality of Relationship
• 6.10 Diversity in Sexual Expression
• 6.11 Erotic Justice

2 Assignment

• Dysfunctional Relationship
• Review

1 Peer Review

• Sharing A Good Lesson

10 Videos

• 6.12 Instrumental Relationships
• 6.13 Relationship Problems - Communication
• 6.14 A Case on Relationship Problem
• 6.15 Dealing with Relationship Problems
• 6.16 Affairs: Part 1
• 6.17 Affairs: Part 2 - Affairs and Beyond
• 6.18 Dysfunctional Relationships
• 6.19 The Challenges of Transformation and Change
• 6.20 It all comes back to the self: The SSLD ideal
• Concluding the Course

1 Videos

• Engaging Non-Normative Sexualities & Desires

2 Readings

• Module 6 Lecture Notes
• Additional Resources for Module 6

2 Assignment

• Have You Changed?
• Course Evaluation